“Believe it or not, NO! Imagine a time when you wanted to be alone. For the sake of this post, let’s say your partner was getting on your nerves. In a rush of discomfort, anxiety and frustration, you left the house to go for a walk. You had to be alone.
During this walk, you may have found that you were playing over a story or multiple stories about your relationship and your frustration, etc. Did you really want to be alone? Or did you really just wish you could work through the issue with your partner? Or talk it through with your mom. Or forget about it altogether with your friend. My point is, you don’t really want to be alone, even if the voice in your head is saying, ‘I just need to be alone.’
Most of the time this voice speaks to us, it is basically just saying that I need space from the anxiety I am feeling, because the current arrangement is too triggering. Being alone is simply the easiest way of escaping the situation. But just because it is the quickest way out does not mean it is the best. One more layer inward, another voice echoes the words of Chris McCandless as he was writing his last ever journal post in ‘Into the Wild’: ‘Happiness is only real when shared.’
Be honest with yourself, and I’ll bet you come to the same conclusion as I did – that this quote is accurate. In any moment, being alone may be better than the current situation, but is not better than being with another or others who you actually want to be with. Being with those we love and who love us is where all happiness lies. Simply put. We are social creatures who depend on this type of herd mentality for not only our happiness but our survival.
So ask yourself these questions, and answer them honestly. You deserve happiness.”
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