"A person never gets over a severe trauma. Trauma is branded in your brain like a bull is branded by a rancher. I spend more time thinking about the past traumas in my life than I do thinking about all the happy moments. I have several happy memories. Time doesn’t heal all wounds. You must ask a therapist about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. I’ve had many kinds of therapy. CBT is the ONLY therapy which forced me to face my traumas. I was forced to ask: was this trauma my fault? I told my traumas I was letting them go. I own my past but I don’t have to let it control me this moment. I know what happened but I live this moment. I don’t live in the past and I’m not promised I’ll HAVE a...

“It depends on so many different factors. The type of trauma. What parts of your life it affected. What parts of your emotions it affected. Your coping mechanisms. How much you hide it from other people. How much you talk it out. How much you let other people help to ground you when your emotions from that time separate you from the current now. How much you accept your reactions as valid and try to work through them….”
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“”Yes, talking therapies that focus on processing previous traumatic experience can help to process it. Examples of trauma processing therapies are as follows. EMDR-Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing-in this therapy the therapist reviews with you your recollection of the traumatic event. When eye movements are initiated, the therapist asks you to think of this narrative and also reflect on your emotion, sense of self statements and visceral feelings that you had in response to a traumatic frame. The eye movements help to draw (in an accelerated manner) all of those experiences to facilitate memory consolidation (especially into anterior regions of the prefrontal cortex)….”
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“As a result of working through my own complex trauma, I don’t believe we ever “overcome” trauma. There are many different types and causes of trauma. My psychology prof taught us that everyone is traumatised, because being born is traumatising. But here’s what my personal experience has taught me. I believe we make friends with it. Fist by recognising the pain it caused, then by grieving for what we “lost” as a result (in my case it was my innocence, trust and childhood)….”

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