“Heartbreak, along with the agony it carries, also carries innate gifts and lessons. Among the greatest is the gift of personal sovereignty and security. Heartbreak exposes our greatest insecurities, weaknesses, and fears. This is no fun for anyone, yet if we are brave enough and curious enough, these pains can be transmuted into profound levels of security, strength, and fearlessness. From here we have the potential to enter into a new relationship from our new ground, a ground of stable independence, allowing for a truly interdependent relationship. Heartbreak exposes our co-dependent, or dependent dynamics. It gives us the golden opportunity to face the truth, that we are ultimately alone here. When we become stable in this truth, joyous, balanced relationship becomes not only possible, but inevitable.”